Today is my writing day, the Substack post day, I suppose one could say
As it was last week, so it seems to be this week, grey, gloomy and overcast, although one plus is that after torrential cascading rain all weekend it has temporarily stopped raining, at least for a brief interlude!
So unusual down our way, where we are blessed with a lot of wonderful sunny days, but then I’m learning to be grateful for my life whatever weather we get (see my last post, “Gratitude: Overpromoted but Underestimated”). Also, as rain, and lots of it, will fill the water tables, it’s good and much needed in case of drought.
Strange, too, how what we are experiencing isn’t necessarily what someone else experiences. My young Chilean friend Marie José told me that in Chile they are suffering from widespread fire, which combined with wind has had devastating effects, wiping out whole town and villages. Yesterday, too, Marcus, a wonderful German friend, called me from Frankfurt. Out of curiosity I asked him what sort of weather he was having, and he said it was beautiful sunshine and that the sun was warm, not a cold winter sun with pallid heat!
Like the weather we all have different experiences of life. And like most people we have some really good experiences and some not so pleasant ones.
Often we tend to think that other people see life the way we do, but it’s not always the case. In the same family if you ask siblings about a particular event in their childhood and how they interpreted it you would be surprised how different the “takes” would be on the same situation.
Conversely we often project our needs and desires on others without actually knowing if they have the same needs, desires and take on life. This discrepancy can be due to past experiences creating a desire or simply to a belief in what we need to be happy, which is then projected onto others, especially often the intimate other. Then we are endlessly surprised when life doesn’t give us what we believe we need or we are in a loop of the same patterns that repeat themselves constantly.
Nonetheless, if you had an opportunity to understand that those experiences that you don’t like, and that sometimes recur too often for your liking, could be turned into opportunities to move forward in life and have fewer negative experiences, I’m sure like most people you would seize the chance. That’s why I want to talk about the Elite Membership Forum (EMF) course and why I want to accompany older women on this course as a trainer.
First of all, I am qualified to be an EMF trainer because I have walked the path myself. I completed the six-month EMF course and then chose to go further and train as a facilitator because the work transformed not just how I think but how I live. I know from experience what is possible if we are given the right tools and the right support.
I am a woman in my seventies. I am physically active, mentally alert, emotionally grounded and psychologically strong, not because life has been easy but because I have done inner work.
This was not always the case. I spent years in an abusive relationship with a narcissist, a situation I finally left at the age of sixty. The EMF course definitively helped me understand how my beliefs were formed, how my personality had adapted to survive, and how I could consciously upgrade it rather than remain shaped by the past.
The work made me stronger, happier, and more centered—and it continues to do so.
What I bring as a trainer is my ability to see people: to recognise their potential, their gifts and what is waiting to be experienced through them. I have a natural ability to bring out others’ potential gifts. This is what I want to do: to help women remember who they are and what they still have to offer.
Over the six months of EMF training, we learn that we create our reality more than we have realized. We are given tools to challenge limiting belief systems, understand how our belief systems were constructed, and consciously evolve beyond them. We learn how to respond to life rather than be overwhelmed by it—so that when we fall off the horse, when life throws us a challenge, we have the inner capacity to get back up with clarity and strength.
This work is all about awareness and choice and control. It has nothing to do with age.
I work with older women because I know in my bones that it is never too late to grow, to change or make a meaningful difference. Age does not limit our impact. Only unexamined limiting beliefs do so.
And in these troubled times, where macho patriarchs more and more dangerously hold the reins of power, it is more important than ever that women step fully into their inner greatness, not through force or imitation of men but through clarity, presence, wisdom and courage.
Want to know more about the course? Then click on the link for my website :
https://wowfactorunleashed.com/
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